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Father uses obscene language, calls them names and insults his children badly

Q. My friend's father maltreats his children. Although he observes Salah (Prayer) and has performed Hajj (pilgrimage), he uses obscene language and insults his children badly and calls them names. His children are psychologically affected to the extent that they do not want to look at him or talk to him. He insults them before his friends although they are well-mannered. What is the ruling on this father? What is the solution for his innocent children?

A. Having good manners is part of Iman (faith) and good treatment is part of Islam; and every Muslim is required by Shari`ah (Islamic law) to observe these etiquettes. Allah (Glorified be He) dislikes insolence and bad manners and traits.

Accordingly, the father should refrain from insulting his children and calling them names, because this involves sin and transgression and may turn the children into ill-mannered ones.

You should advise him and his children should avoid provoking him or arguing with him, but at the same time they should be well behaved with him and ask Allah to guide him.

May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family and Companions!

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Permanent Committee Fatwas > Volume 25: (miscellaneous 2) > Good manners > Good morals and good conduct > The second question of Fatwa no. 18100